In business we hear:
“Think OUTSIDE of the BOX.” What many don’t understand is that the road to
original ideas is not a direct route. Getting to ‘outside of the box’ cannot be navigated by a GPS. It’s off the
grid, like traveling on a dirt road, taking detours, and hoping you’ll know
you’re at the right place when you’ve arrived.
This is a critical piece
of information for ANYONE who wants to do a TED talk, a corporate speech or
even write a book that is FULL OF ORIGINAL IDEAS.
I got a call from
someone, who wanted speaking coaching after he had seen his accountant friend,
and one of my former clients, speak. He
was surprised and impressed that his straight-laced friend got laughs, tears,
and a standing ovation. Did I mention that he’s a CPA? Now, he wanted the same
thing – to speak and have an audience fall in love with him. I took him on.
At our first meeting, he
left disappointed as he thought his entire speech would come together at that
first meeting. After we ended the hour
Skype session with some rough ideas, he asked, “Is this working?”
What ISN’T working – with
more work – WILL. Be suspicious of
things that are too good to be true. Newsflash: It takes MORE than “7 Days to Write
your Best Seller,” way more than “5 Hours to Lose Weight” and it may NEVER happen
that you “Find God and Peace over Breakfast.”
If you are to create
something that will blow people’s socks off, you have to put in TIME and accept
that the creative process is MESSY.
The journey to SUCCESS is
littered with trial and error. The first pass is like putting on your
underwear. Nobody has to see it unless you want
them to. Once you’re covered, you get to address the next layer. The fun begins
when you cut, improve and refine. Failing is a friendly tool, letting you know
something needs to be fixed. We have to be willing to toss out material the way
we get rid of other trash. Did I just lose the HOARDERS?
Look at it this way: A
baby takes 9 months, and that doesn’t include your 5 years of diets, bad
choices, and that Jack Daniels, “Let’s do shooters!” year.
As Michelangelo said, “In every block of marble I see a statue as
plain as though it stood before me, shaped and perfect in attitude and action.
I have only to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to
reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it.” I would have advised him to take another pass
at those sentences, lose some of the words and maybe get it down to, “I get rid
of what’s there that’s not needed.” Too bad Michelangelo wasn’t my client; I
could have made him a success.
I urge clients NOT TO
RUSH, but to give themselves room and time to find the story that will motivate,
a message that will inspire, and jokes to keep everyone awake. What matters
most is NOT the idea, but HOW you present it.
My job as a coach is to
help you find your never-existed-before-in-time idea, explore it and turn it on
its head to see it from all angles while you hold onto your faith in yourself
and in your message.
When you put in the right
amount of work, it WILL appear to have been effortless.
Here are 5 simple tips to help you become a better writer:
1. Try writing at 4 AM. It's easier to write when your critic is asleep. You will have access to the hidden gold in your subconscious.
2. Write inappropriate stuff. There will be time to edit and censor yourself, but filtering out ideas in the beginning will also filter out the gold.
3. If you get stuck – write lists starting with the Top 10 Reasons Writing Sucks. Lists are not just for David Letterman.
4. Cover your computer screen while you write. Not seeing what you are writing will keep you from judging it as you go.
5. Set your iPhone timer and keep writing until it goes off. The difference between pros and amateurs is that the pros keep going even when they don’t want to.
Here are 5 simple tips to help you become a better writer:
1. Try writing at 4 AM. It's easier to write when your critic is asleep. You will have access to the hidden gold in your subconscious.
2. Write inappropriate stuff. There will be time to edit and censor yourself, but filtering out ideas in the beginning will also filter out the gold.
3. If you get stuck – write lists starting with the Top 10 Reasons Writing Sucks. Lists are not just for David Letterman.
4. Cover your computer screen while you write. Not seeing what you are writing will keep you from judging it as you go.
5. Set your iPhone timer and keep writing until it goes off. The difference between pros and amateurs is that the pros keep going even when they don’t want to.
Judy, I never miss reading your entries. Thank you for keeping so many company in the dark as we mine for gold.
ReplyDeleteSo good to hear your response! Go get that GOLD!!!
ReplyDeleteHi Judy,
ReplyDeleteI think you have just hammered the point across..I fell in love with your book 'Comedy Bible' and I am loving 'The message of you'..i think any speaker wins by writing..
Judy, you're so right about finding ways to get ourselves "outside the box." I've earned my living by writing for years, and I do better when I get "outside the LINES" too. I "brain map" on a BLANK sheet of paper to find funny connections between topics. When I surprise myself, I know I'll surprise an audience. Your readers can Google mind mapping if it's new to them. I love your posts--thank you!
ReplyDeleteGood tip Judy on mind-mapping!
ReplyDeleteJudy - Ready/thought/worked on MESSAGE OF YOU last Aug 2013 from Denver to Illinois (13 hours on the road). Since August, I've been noodling for my message and is it the current delivery I've been giving with an average to "meh" amount of success. I do believe there is more to mine in my mind. (Love alliteration - sorry!) What holds me back are the still somewhat taboo topics of eating disorders from College days and depression from big girl days. My husband says I should approach these topics from the viewpoint of what it was like to live with me with these things. Ha! So my task is to figure out how to marry my current, based on finding more humor in everyday life, with the darker side of life. In other words, White is the New Black? Hmmmmm. Thanks, Judy...... Bobbe White
ReplyDeleteWith everything said on reality TV, there are no taboo topics - only censorship from our own inner critic.
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